Anyone who knows me knows that I carry around a few extra pounds. Most of the extra weight is right out in front of me and it gets in the way. So, over the holidays I made a commitment to do something about it - throw some passes, as it were. I dug out my wife's TaeBo video tapes and me and Billy Blanks went at it for a while. If my workout yesterday were compared to just one pass play on a football field the pass didn't make it half way to the closest receiver - who was standing ten yards away and he was wide open.
I watched the Introduction to TaeBo video tape while I sat on the sofa and thought to myself, "I did rougher stuff than that in high school. This will be cake!" I rewound the tape and started over again, this time standing in the middle of the floor with my dukes up just like ol' Billy and proceeded to remind me that high school was 20-some years ago.
How does this apply to being an armchair husband? Like my last post, I got all fired up, made the commitment to change, and actually made a move to change. Yet, once I made that move to change I suddenly realized that making this change is not going to be easy. What's more, that was just one workout. Change doesn't happen as the result of one instance of motivation turned to action.
Change comes with consistency over time. With the TaeBo work out, I've done one in a row - nothing has changed. What's more - I really have no desire to do that again. It's uncomfortable, it hurts, and it's generally unpleasant. But if I don't nothing will change.
How many of us men know what that's like? How many of us are caught between settling for an undesirable situation and knowing that to change it is going to be uncomfortable, time consuming, and it will likely be emotionally draining. Most times, settling for the undesirable is the choice we opt for because it's the path of least resistance.
My friends, I really don't want you to settle. I want your marriage to be as awesome as it can be. I want you to be really happy with your wife and family. The reality for most of us is that to move from where we are now to really happy is going to take some effort and we'll have endure some discomfort. I believe it will be so much worth the effort and discomfort in the end!
I'm here to encourage you, to bounce ideas around with, and to listen to your frustrations. What's more, if you are really struggling with something and need some help you can click on the button to the right and sign up for the 4BetterOr4Worse men's group on yahoo. There are some very solid men there who can help you work through some stuff.
A note to wives - I normally don't write to the ladies but I know a lot of you read here. When you see your husband making an effort to change and make things better - please be encouraging - even if encouragement means not saying nothing. Try to get behind your man and help him with the issue of consistency over time. Don't do or say anything that will make him believe that settling for what he has now is the better option.
Thanks for stopping by. I'm off to do my Tae Bo Workout.
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